Everybody Knows….

You can’t be all things to all people.

You can’t do all things at once.

You can’t do all things equally well.

You can’t do all things better than everyone else.

Your humanity is showing just like everyone else’s.

So:

You have to find out who you are, and be that.

You have to decide what comes first, and do that.

You have to discover your strengths, and use them.

You have to learn not to compete with others,

Because no one else is in the contest of *being you*.

Then:

You will have learned to accept your own uniqueness.

You will have learned to set priorities and make decisions.

You will have learned to live with your limitations.

You will have learned to give yourself the respect that is due.

And you’ll be a most vital mortal.

Dare To Believe:

That you are a wonderful, unique person.

That you are a once-in-all-history event.

That it’s more than a right, it’s your duty, to be who you are.

That life is not a problem to solve, but a gift to cherish.

And you’ll be able to stay one up on what used to get you down.

Source Unknown.

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Does it Fit?….

“The only man who behaved sensibly was my tailor; he took my measurement anew each time he saw me, while all the rest went on with their old measurements and expected them to fit me.”  -George Bernard Shaw-

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Happiness…

“Happiness is not something ready-made.  It comes from your own actions.”  -Dalai Lama XIV-

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A Question…

Why am I always running so fast? Is there something that I don’t want to see?

…it is not only you; almost everybody is running as fast as he can from himself. And the problem is, you cannot run away from yourself.  Wherever you go you will be yourself. The fear is of knowing oneself.  -Osho-

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What is Love?

I have been thinking a lot about love lately. Here is an article I found that gives a good description of it.  But words are never enough to give the feeling that real love provides.  I struggle with  theses feelings every day.  Please chime in with your own feelings and opinions on what “Love” is….

What is love?

It  is one of the most difficult questions for mankind. Centuries have passed  by, relationships have bloomed and so has love. But no one can give the proper    definition of love. To some Love is friendship set on fire for others, maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it. No matter how  you define it or feel it, love is the eternal truth in the history of mankind.

Love is patient, love is kind. It has no envy, nor it boasts itself and it is never proud. It rejoices over the  evil and is the truth seeker. Love protects; preserves and hopes for the positive aspect of life. Always stand steadfast in love, not fall into it. It is like the dream of your matter of affection coming true.  Love can occur between two or more individuals. It bonds them and connects them in a unified link of trust,intimacy and interdependence. It enhances the  relationship and comforts the soul. Love should be experienced and not just felt. The depth of love can not be measured. Look at the relationship between a  mother and a child. The mother loves the child unconditionally and it can not be measured at all. A different dimension can be attained between any relationships with the magic of love. Love can be created.You just need to focus on the goodness of the other person. If this can be done  easily, then you can also love easily. And remember we all have some positive aspect in us, no matter how bad our deeds maybe. And as God said “Love all”.

Depending on context, love can be of different varieties. Romantic love is a deep, intense and unending. It shared on a very intimate and interpersonal and sexual relationship.  The term Platonic love, familial love and religious love are also matter of great affection. It is more of desire, preference and feelings. The meaning of love will change with each different relationship and depends more on its concept of depth, versatility, and complexity. But at times the very existence of love is questioned. Some say it is false and meaningless. It says that it never existed,  because there has been many instances of hatred and brutality in relationships. The history of our world has witnessed many such events. There has been hatred   between brothers, parents and children, sibling rivalry and spouses have failed  each other. Friends have betrayed each other; the son has killed his parents for the throne, the count is endless. Even the modern generation is also facing  such dilemmas everyday. But love is not responsible for that. It is us, the  people, who have forgotten the meaning of love and have undertaken such gruesome apathy.

In the past the study of  philosophy and religion has done many speculations on the phenomenon of love. But love has always ruled, in music, poetry, paintings, sculpture and literature. Psychology has also done lot of dissection to the essence of love, just like what biology, anthropology and neuroscience has also done to it.

Psychology portrays love as a  cognitive phenomenon with a social cause. It is said to have three components in the book of psychology: Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. Also, in an ancient  proverb love is defined as a high form of tolerance. And this view has been accepted and advocated by both philosophers and scholars. Love also includes compatibility. But it is more of journey to the unknown when the concept of compatibility comes into the picture. Maybe the person whom we see in front of us, may be least compatible than the person who is miles away. We might talk to each other and portray that we love each other, but practically we do not end up into any relationship. Also in compatibility, the key is to think about the long-term successful relationship, not a short journey. We need to understand each other and must always remember that nobody is perfect.

Be together, share your joy and sorrow, understand each other, provide space to each other, but always be there for each others need. And surely love will blossom to strengthen your relationship with your matter of affection.


Love all, trust a few, do  wrong to none.
William Shakespeare

http://www.love-sessions.com/whatislove.htm.

 

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WordPress for FCC

The FCC just released their first plugin for WordPress (a faceted search widget) and writes about why. Does your organization have a cool plugin you’ve written but not released yet? I know we do. Hopefully they will get the plugin in the repo soon.

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Chapter 4

 

Chapter 4

 

There
Are Many Ways to Make Decisions

Everyone knows what smart
is, right?  Well, I’m not so sure that
“smart” is all that easy to define.

Take the example of a good
friend of mine, Tweedle Dum. (Does that make me Tweedle Dee?–your guess.) He
came from a lower-middle class family. His school grades were average to poor,
certainly never good enough to make it on any honor list.  He went to work right out of High School; I’m
guessing that he never even thought of going to college. He eventually went to
work for a couple he knew who owned a couple of struggling businesses. They
became friends and took him under their wing so to speak, involving him in
several different enterprises requiring him to work many 12-16-hour days.  Along the way, he piled up debt buying real
estate and other “stuff”. The last time Tweedle Dum and I got together, I
learned that Tweedle Dum is…doing quite well for himself.  This story certainly raises the question, “if
Tweedle is not smart, how come he’s so successful?”  Tweedle Dum certainly wasn’t a scholar and
didn’t score well on tests, the commonly accepted standard for being “smart”.
Obviously Tweedle Dee or Tweedle Dum can be “smart” in one way but underperform
in others. Hmmmm….there must be different “types” of smart!  How then do we use the different types of
“smart” when making decisions?

Objectives
in Understanding “Smart”

I have tried to think through what qualities (in plain English) might be needed
in order to explain what being “smart” is.

These are what I have come up with:

Smart
is Understanding that solving   problems requires a strategy or plan.

Smart
is:Recognizing that “common  sense” is really practiced decision-making.

Smart
is:Recognizing that the decisions one makes involves trade-offs.

Smart
is:Understanding that making decisions are part of everyone’s life.

 Skills Needed to Make “Smart” Decisions Are:

  • Listening
  • Asking Questions
  • Comparing Ideas
  • Drawing Conclusions

 Do you recognize any of
the above “smarts” as contributing to or playing a part in Tweedle Dum’s
success?

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Creatures of the Fire

We
swan-dive into the volcano, burning;
We’re creatures of the fire,
Mingled
male and female, yearning
For the heat, the sweet explosion of
desire.

I
splash into the pleasure, all-consuming;
I’m joyfully insane,
My passion
for you deep, and fully blooming;
Long after, sweet warm flickers still remain.

You
make my body sizzle with your kisses,
And yet there’s so much more;
My
heart is kindled, too; It knows what bliss is,
This closeness that I’ve never
felt before.

My
body and my heart belong to you;
I’m peaceful and complete.
I see more
adventures coming for we two,
We creatures of the tender fire and
heat.

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Finding…

“Finding something important in life does not mean that you must give up everything else”  -P.C.-

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Freedom…or Captivity?….

“We tend to seek captivity because we are not used to seeing freedom as something that has neither frontiers nor responsibilities”  -P.C.-

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